Parents of children with special needs are often caught off guard when the diagnosis is made. How do you cope with all these feelings, how do you take good care of your child, but without forgetting yourself as a parent?
In what follows, we will discuss this issue that affects parents of children with special needs, regardless of their origin!
Who are children with special needs?
When we think of a person with special needs, we first think of a physical disability that limits mobility. Nevertheless, it is important to know that there are several conditions that can cause a child to have special needs. Here are the main ones:
- Physical disability or impairment;
- Sensory disability (blindness, deafness, etc.);
- Intellectual disability;
- Developmental Disorder;
- ADHD;
- Language impairment;
- Learning disability.
Regardless of the condition, it is important to mention that the needs of these children remain the same. Indeed, their basic needs must be met, as well as their need for security, affection, etc. They are called “special needs” because different strategies are usually required to meet their needs.
A difficult diagnosis to accept
When a diagnosis is made, parents find themselves having to deal with a new reality, which can provoke a range of feelings and reactions. Some are left feeling confused, not knowing the full details of their child’s condition and the additional challenges it presents. Others are left with a sense of guilt, as they feel they are responsible for their child’s condition.
In many cases, the diagnosis causes anger, because of a sense of injustice, or even disappointment, as parents mourn the loss of having a “normal” child.
Coping with the child’s needs
Remember that you are not alone as parents of a child with special needs. There are many strategies that can be put in place to support you in your role and to help you sort out feelings from reality. Here are some tips to help you do this:
- Consult a psychologist: consulting this professional can greatly help put things into perspective and de-dramatize the situation following the child’s diagnosis. The psychologist can help the parent sort out his or her feelings and manage them better, so that they are better adapted to the reality of the child and his or her family.
- Get in touch with parents who are in the same situation: many associations and self-help groups exist to offer support to families of children with special needs. Getting in touch with these people who understand you can help you to be better equipped and to seek sound advice.
- Rely on those closest to you: As a parent of a child with special needs, you need to pay attention to yourself and your own needs to avoid pushing yourself too far. Your closest family members and friends can be invaluable in giving you a break when you need it most.
- Adjust your expectations of yourself: Avoid being too demanding of yourself. Your child has special needs, but you have to accept that you can’t always do everything to meet them. Sometimes you will need help and support too, so be realistic.
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Approuvé par Francis Desjardins
