Getting old is a stage of life that no one can escape and that brings its own set of challenges. Health problems, loss of autonomy, death of a spouse, moving, etc. As a child of aging parents, it is essential to talk with them about their needs, desires and expectations. Good communication is necessary to ensure that this period in our parents’ lives is well lived, but also to avoid family conflicts.
Our social workers share with you topics to discuss with your aging parents and offer tips on how to foster healthy communication.
Health: setting the record straight
As we age, physical health issues become an increasing concern. As a child, you need to be aware of your aging parents’ condition. Take the time to learn about existing health conditions that you already know about. Are they stable or have they changed? How are these conditions treated or managed? Who are the health care professionals responsible for monitoring?
It is important to have the right information to avoid unpleasant surprises. It also allows you, as a potential caregiver, to plan for the necessary resources, in terms of time and money, to take care of your parent in the event that a health problem worsens.
Be aware of expectations for the future
Depending on the health status of the parents and their household situation (spouse living or deceased), it is also important to talk with them about their expectations and desires for the future. How do they see themselves aging and, more importantly, in what environment? Are there any dreams or projects they still want to achieve?
Knowing your parents’ wishes and expectations is a great help in understanding their state of mind, but also how they perceive aging and all that comes with it.
Find out about the financial situation
As a child, you are entitled to have a good understanding of your parent(s)’ financial situation. This is especially true if you are the person who will be responsible for their estate when they die… Do they have the money to deal with unexpected events? Do they have the budget to live in a seniors’ residence if this is the most appropriate option for their health condition and needs? Of course, let them take care of their finances, but make sure you have a good knowledge of their situation, again to avoid unpleasant surprises. You can also make realistic decisions together about the future.
Seek support from a social worker
Social workers are the professionals to consult in the case of difficult or complex social situations, such as loss of autonomy and the difficulties that this entails. In particular, their advice can be directed to the children of aging parents, to help them deal with the issues surrounding their parents’ future in the right way.
For aging parents, the social worker can also offer support, for example, in choosing a new living environment that will suit their wishes and needs. In addition, they can guide their clients towards the appropriate resources, particularly for the services and care that their health condition requires.
To take advantage of personalized support and sound advice to help and guide your parents through this pivotal time of aging, trust the social workers at Clinique GO™. In addition to in-home services, they are also available to intervene via online consultation!
Approuvé par Francis Desjardins
